The meeting is about to begin. You walk into the conference room. There are plenty of open seats.
Where do you sit?
Close to the conversation, off to the side, or in a seat that lets you listen without being fully seen?
It’s a small choice, and it often reflects something deeper—how confident you feel in the group, how certain you are about the topic, and how much space you believe you can take.
In Lean In, Sheryl Sandberg shares an observation that many women sit at the back of the room instead of taking a seat at the table.
It’s a powerful image.
What message do you suppose it sends? Is it signaling that you’re ready to contribute, that you have value to add—or something else?
Because long before you speak, you’re already communicating.
These are small signals, often made without much thought, but they reflect something real—how you see yourself in that moment and how connected you feel to your own voice. And they shape how others experience you as well.
This is where trust shows up in a quiet way.
Trusting yourself includes paying attention to these choices and being willing to explore what they’re signaling—not to judge them, but to understand them.
Because when you begin to notice, something shifts.
You start to choose more intentionally—a different seat, a more present posture, a way of showing up that feels more aligned with who you are.
And over time, those small choices begin to build a deeply held confidence in yourself—a sense that you can trust yourself not only in what you say, but in how you show up before you say a word.
See you next month.
With gratitude, Ann
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